Taking the Time You Need
When we’re not in the space of compassionate intention and we’re triggered, sometimes removing ourselves from the situation for a few minutes is the best solution. However, how we remove ourselves will help prevent triggering others in turn when we give ourselves that space.
For instance, if you find yourself triggered during a conversation with a coworker, ask for a short break, but be clear about this request and own it. Clarify that your intention is to take a few minutes to reconnect and regroup, and that you want come back later to reengage in the conversation.
You can also say something like “I’m going to the bathroom,” when you anticipate that your desire to regroup won’t be well received, or it isn’t appropriate to communicate (such as in a meeting).
By taking this “time out” you’re actually taking a “time in” — to give yourself empathy and reconnect to your intention to make a compassionate connection.
Mindful Practice for the Week
This week, find ways to remind yourself to take a “time in” as you need it. Breathe, and use silent and/or self-empathy to reconnect with your feelings and needs.